I was 23. I was new to L.A.
One of my friends back east was getting married and I was headed for the wedding the next day.
That’s when I got the phone call:
“You just got an offer to play a lead in a short film. The director has a lot of buzz…”
Starts tomorrow. Shoots all week.
My plane was due to take off at 6:50am the next morning. The rehearsal dinner was that evening. I had a toast prepared.
What do I do???
My agent (not the most sensitive soul) acted like it was a no-brainer.
“Honey, this is what being an actor is. Tell your friend you love her, but career comes first.”
My head was swirling.
I hadn’t had an audition in two months and now I had a real OFFER? And was I actually considering saying “no?”
Here’s another story for you:
It was one of my closest friend’s birthday. She was turning 30.
A good friend of both of ours planned a party for her. We were all meeting at a fancy restaurant to celebrate.
Two hours before we were due to meet, the person who had organized the birthday dinner was invited to “Tom and Nicole’s” (for all you kids – Tom Cruise used to be married to Nicole Kidman).
Our host decided to hit the celebrity party instead of the friend’s birthday party she had planned.
Was she a terrible person?
Did she have FOMO?
Without getting judge-y about how others make decisions, here’s my unsolicited advice:
Do what you originally planned to do.
Go to the best friend’s wedding, and pass on the night with Tom Cruise.
Trust that there are many opportunities in life, and you don’t have to be available for anything and everything.
When you say yes to something, stick to it.
Because at the end of the day, which decision is going to better serve your soul?
Don’t worry. You’ll always get another shot.
Try to get past the FOMO and then remember…
Life is LONG. Oh, yes it is.